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They Bought a House That Made Them House Poor. Would They Do It Again? 'I Was Sick and Stressed With Anxiety Like Every Day'

They Bought a House That Made Them House Poor. Would They Do It Again? 'I Was Sick and Stressed With Anxiety Like Every Day' · Image via Shutterstock

Adrian Volenik

Thu, September 10, 2026 at 2:00 AM GMT+3 6 min read

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Buying a home can build wealth over time, but stretching too far to get one can make everyday life miserable. Homeowners who have been house poor say the mortgage itself was often only part of the problem. Repairs, taxes, insurance and plain bad luck turned an already tight budget into a constant source of stress.

That came through clearly in a recent Reddit discussion. One prospective buyer said purchasing would leave them with about $100 a month after the mortgage and other living expenses. They had savings and were considering renting out a bedroom, but wanted to know how people who had made a similar choice felt about it years later.

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'I Would Never Do It Again'

For one homeowner, the answer was easy.

"I would never do it again," they wrote. "I had to get a second job, I was sick and stressed with anxiety like every day."

Looking back, they said they would have rented somewhere cheaper until they received a promotion or found a higher-paying job.

Another commenter had purchased five homes over the years. Two were financial stretches that seemed reasonable because their career was progressing and the economy and housing market looked strong. Both turned out to be poor decisions when major difficulties hit within a year. The three homes purchased comfortably below their limits were better experiences.

One couple offered an even more expensive lesson. They bought a $699,000 home with 25% down and a 6% mortgage rate. Soon afterward, their income from sales jobs dropped.

They started with $25,000 in reserves. Three years later, they had $25,000 in credit card debt.

"Those three years were a stress factory," the homeowner wrote, adding that there was almost no money for fun. They eventually sold for $800,000 and said they were fortunate to get out, but would never choose to be house poor again.

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The Mortgage Is Only the Beginning

Many homeowners pointed out that a mortgage payment can look manageable until everything else starts climbing.

One person's taxes and insurance increased their costs by about $400 a month over five years. Others described a $16,000 roof replacement, a $6,400 electrical repair, a $7,000 foundation repair and a $5,000 heating, ventilation and air conditioning replacement.

"One blown tire. One sprained ankle. One power outage causing all the stuff in the fridge to go bad," one homeowner wrote. "One dead water heater would spell disaster."

Even households with more breathing room struggled. One couple bought with about $1,000 left each month and expected raises and promotions to improve their situation. Five years later, they were still essentially living paycheck to paycheck as taxes, insurance, maintenance, child care and electricity increased.

Not everyone regretted stretching. Some homeowners eventually doubled their incomes, refinanced at lower rates or watched their properties rise substantially in value. Others said owning provided stability, better schools or the neighborhood they wanted badly enough to justify giving up vacations and other spending.

And that wealth-building potential is a major reason people stretch to own real estate in the first place. But owning a home you live in isn't the only way to invest in property.

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When Stretching Actually Worked

There were success stories in the discussion, but many depended on circumstances improving.

One buyer purchased in 2018 with a 47% debt-to-income ratio, then switched jobs twice, more than doubled their income and refinanced at 2.75%. "It worked out great for me," they said, while acknowledging that lucky timing played a major role.

Another homeowner struggled enough during the first year that they needed a second job. Ten years later, they are about five years away from paying off the mortgage completely.

Perhaps the clearest distinction in the discussion was between being house poor and being financially vulnerable. Giving up restaurants and vacations to afford a home is one thing. Having $100 between you and the next broken appliance, tax increase or emergency is something else entirely.

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